I have been thinking about what to do with this blog post for a while now. I have had various ideas what to say and how to say it. I think that the best way is to do a FAQ list. Here is everything that you may (and more likely than not may not) want to know.
There is a couple of dangers in doing this specific post. 1)I don't want it to come across that I do not want to talk about the baby since I am writing about it. I just was afraid that much of the conversation would get lost in cyberspace since we were announcing electronically. 2) I can be a little sarcastic at times and people might "hear" bitterness in some of my answers, but there is none there! I did my best to proof this so that I do not offend anyone.
When are you due? My EDD is December 29th. Jordan thinks this is perfect as long as I have the baby by the 31st. That way he gets the tax credit this year and gets to pay for it with Flex next year. Since the other kids' birthdays are in '05, '07, and '09 I think that it would have a better ring to it if it was '11, but seriously who ever wants to go over!
How far along are you? 11 weeks. We heard the heartbeat this week. So yup, if you are good with the math baby and Reuben will be 21 months apart. We will have 4 kids 5 and under.
Where will you be delivering? I don't know yet. I am still ob/midwife "shopping" I loved Mercy last time, but never fell in love with my ob. Suggestions?
Are you going to find out what you are having? Not this time. It is so much more fun to call everyone and say "We had a..."
What do the kids think? They are so excited. The only problem is that Audrey does NOT want a boy. She has come up with a list of girls names and cried when I told her it might be a boy. "I already have two boys." She told a friend "Jonah gets Reuben, and I get Mommy's new baby." Jonah is very excited and figuring out when he will stay with Gramma and When he will stay with Nana. He can't wait for Daddy to make bunk beds for him and "Rubes" (although every once in a while I second guess this and think maybe put the big two together, but I don't know...) He melted my heart when he asked "Will the new baby hold on to my finger, because Reuben won't hold mine anymore." I thought it was so neat that he remembered that early baby reflex and is looking forward to it again!
How are you feeling? I cannot complain. I have thrown up less than in Jonah's pregnancy, and could I really throw up any more than I did during Audrey's? (Is it bad that I cannot remember how sick I was with Reuben?) As soon as I found out I was pregnant I went on the offensive with vitamins, (all I can say is "Wow, food-based vitamins!") healthy food, tons of sleep and I know this sounds corny, but the mind is a very powerful thing. I have really tried to prayerfully think positively about the whole pregnancy experience this time and meditate on God's Word. I have to believe that that has made a difference. I have mostly been sick at night which is handy as mommy of three, but I feel like I never see Jordan. We are long over due for a date night. He has been Mr. Amazing!
Are you...(wait for it, because there is normally a pause here) happy about this? It is with great joy that I can honestly answer "Yes!" As long as I am being honest I should confess that my attitude with my last pregnancy was not good. I said that children were a blessing I just didn't think that I needed to be blessed at that moment. I said I trusted God's timing, but I pouted about it. So I had about 9 months of anger, then I held that beautiful baby boy and followed it with about 9 months of guilt. A year and a half of waisted emotions and energy. I will not go down that road again!
What does Jordan think? That man is my rock. His response was "OK." He smiled and joked, "I can't wait to see their faces next time when we tell them we are having number 5!" Isn't he funny?
Where you trying? It is probably just me, but this question, unless from a family member or VERY close friend, makes me uncomfortable. It is so personal! I know that I have asked this question of others and my new rule of thumb is this: If I have to ask I shouldn't! I know I am easily weirded out by this type of question, so it is probably just me (or the hormones!)
Are you done now? (With the eyebrow raise of course!) This would be the another question I don't like. I do all that I can to dodge it. Doesn't it seem a little silly to ask this to a person who has answered this question incorrectly so many times?
Have you figured out how this is happening? Thus rounding out the trifecta of questions I dislike. The only time I laughed at this "joke" was when my Grandpa (who had seven kids) thought he would try it. I think that is the height of irony. I have a very snarky little response to this question, but I have not yet had guts to snap back. I am afraid some poor unsuspecting soul someday in Target is going to think this question is original and try it. I will lose it, give my snarky comment and regret it!
I think that does it. I cannot think of anything else you might want to know! As always we would appreciate your prayers for a healthy baby, safe delivery and smooth adjustment as we become "Vos, Party of 6!"
There is a couple of dangers in doing this specific post. 1)I don't want it to come across that I do not want to talk about the baby since I am writing about it. I just was afraid that much of the conversation would get lost in cyberspace since we were announcing electronically. 2) I can be a little sarcastic at times and people might "hear" bitterness in some of my answers, but there is none there! I did my best to proof this so that I do not offend anyone.
When are you due? My EDD is December 29th. Jordan thinks this is perfect as long as I have the baby by the 31st. That way he gets the tax credit this year and gets to pay for it with Flex next year. Since the other kids' birthdays are in '05, '07, and '09 I think that it would have a better ring to it if it was '11, but seriously who ever wants to go over!
How far along are you? 11 weeks. We heard the heartbeat this week. So yup, if you are good with the math baby and Reuben will be 21 months apart. We will have 4 kids 5 and under.
Where will you be delivering? I don't know yet. I am still ob/midwife "shopping" I loved Mercy last time, but never fell in love with my ob. Suggestions?
Are you going to find out what you are having? Not this time. It is so much more fun to call everyone and say "We had a..."
What do the kids think? They are so excited. The only problem is that Audrey does NOT want a boy. She has come up with a list of girls names and cried when I told her it might be a boy. "I already have two boys." She told a friend "Jonah gets Reuben, and I get Mommy's new baby." Jonah is very excited and figuring out when he will stay with Gramma and When he will stay with Nana. He can't wait for Daddy to make bunk beds for him and "Rubes" (although every once in a while I second guess this and think maybe put the big two together, but I don't know...) He melted my heart when he asked "Will the new baby hold on to my finger, because Reuben won't hold mine anymore." I thought it was so neat that he remembered that early baby reflex and is looking forward to it again!
How are you feeling? I cannot complain. I have thrown up less than in Jonah's pregnancy, and could I really throw up any more than I did during Audrey's? (Is it bad that I cannot remember how sick I was with Reuben?) As soon as I found out I was pregnant I went on the offensive with vitamins, (all I can say is "Wow, food-based vitamins!") healthy food, tons of sleep and I know this sounds corny, but the mind is a very powerful thing. I have really tried to prayerfully think positively about the whole pregnancy experience this time and meditate on God's Word. I have to believe that that has made a difference. I have mostly been sick at night which is handy as mommy of three, but I feel like I never see Jordan. We are long over due for a date night. He has been Mr. Amazing!
Are you...(wait for it, because there is normally a pause here) happy about this? It is with great joy that I can honestly answer "Yes!" As long as I am being honest I should confess that my attitude with my last pregnancy was not good. I said that children were a blessing I just didn't think that I needed to be blessed at that moment. I said I trusted God's timing, but I pouted about it. So I had about 9 months of anger, then I held that beautiful baby boy and followed it with about 9 months of guilt. A year and a half of waisted emotions and energy. I will not go down that road again!
What does Jordan think? That man is my rock. His response was "OK." He smiled and joked, "I can't wait to see their faces next time when we tell them we are having number 5!" Isn't he funny?
Where you trying? It is probably just me, but this question, unless from a family member or VERY close friend, makes me uncomfortable. It is so personal! I know that I have asked this question of others and my new rule of thumb is this: If I have to ask I shouldn't! I know I am easily weirded out by this type of question, so it is probably just me (or the hormones!)
Are you done now? (With the eyebrow raise of course!) This would be the another question I don't like. I do all that I can to dodge it. Doesn't it seem a little silly to ask this to a person who has answered this question incorrectly so many times?
Have you figured out how this is happening? Thus rounding out the trifecta of questions I dislike. The only time I laughed at this "joke" was when my Grandpa (who had seven kids) thought he would try it. I think that is the height of irony. I have a very snarky little response to this question, but I have not yet had guts to snap back. I am afraid some poor unsuspecting soul someday in Target is going to think this question is original and try it. I will lose it, give my snarky comment and regret it!
I think that does it. I cannot think of anything else you might want to know! As always we would appreciate your prayers for a healthy baby, safe delivery and smooth adjustment as we become "Vos, Party of 6!"
isn't it funny that just our two "little" families will make up 5/7ths of our family spring festivities. thats over 71% :) Yours alone will make up almost 42%...i'm into percentages lately...:)
ReplyDeleteWell said! And CONGRATULATIONS!!! I tell you since I first talked to you about this and you said "a baby is a blessing, how can I say no thank you God, I don't want this blessing" I have been more calm about the possiblity of our family expanding. Though we feel we are complete as a family of 4, God may have different plans and I am to be thankful for the blessings He gives us no matter when, why or how! Congrats again party of 6!
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